In order to forgive, we must first love...the offender, not the offense. As long as we conflate the offender and the offense, the offender will remain unforgivable. The offense may well be unforgivable, but the offender must be released. Both for the offender's sake and for our own.
Going deeper, we discover that in order to love the offender, we must first become willing to love without restrictions, without boundaries...and this is a real toughie. It feels like trying to get a hug from a cement block.
Fortunately, our goal is for still more spiritual growth, and we begin to understand our inner block is nothing more nor less than our ego. We see that block as our own angry hurt which fills an ego-need, and it gets us too much for us to just release it...too much pity (which we swear we do not want); too much sham understanding from others (which is the Miracle-Gro for their contempt); too much self in a word, meaning no God a'tall.
We realize that all our hurt, anger, judgments...defects of character...are fear, which is ego-based and ego-driven and impossible to release just because we "know better." Fear in any and all of its forms serves naught but self, and self cannot be served at the expense of another. Again we come to the answer...give it up. Forgive.
And there it is. We hand it over to the God of our own understanding. In the handing over, we take his hand and walk free in love and laughter.
God loves us...pass it on.
Thank you.
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