GOD IS LOVE...TRUST IT

Learning to be a loving person is almost all about letting go of our own idea about love...how to give, but more about how to receive love. Until we let go of our idea of what love is, we'll never be open to experiencing the inborn love awaiting to be released...to and from others.

I suspect our desire and yet fear of love keeps us stuck in our reasoning mind's idea of what love should look like. It's a difficult thing when we interpret that another is in need to untwist our self from our own idea of just what the need is...then rushing to give what may not be needed.

In the early '90s I attended an Elizabeth Kubler-Ross "Life, Death and Transition" retreat/workshop. (In short, it's purpose was for those who had experienced a trauma in life that they were unable to get shut of.) Each attendee had the opportunity to share their traumatic experience with the group. The sharer would often cry, and it was revolutionary to me to learn that we must not, NOT, hand the crier a tissue as a sop for their tears.

As Kubler-Ross explained, the one sharing has held the hurt for way too long, it is just beginning to seep out, tears are appropriate, let them come.

What happens to those of us observing is that we become uncomfortable if there are free-flowing tears because, who's kidding whom, that means free-flowing snot, too. We quit listening to the cry for help...our compassion and willingness to listen...and became absorbed with our idea of what we think must be the other's embarrassment at all the...umm...nasal mucus.  We are repulsed, which is not nice, so we interpret our discomfort as needing to come to the other's aid in the form of a tissue.

Here, according to Kubler-Ross, is the crux: The crier may well be right at the point of breakthrough. He has been stuck in his pain maybe for years, has only begun to loose it and let it go, and here comes a hand waving a tissue in his face. Of course, that interrupts his line of thought, and his stuck pain goes back into hiding.

The lesson about love on the material plane is until we are asked specifically for help...here, for a tissue...we give our full loving attention without judgment and that is all. On a spiritual plane, we  remember unto breathing that God is love. Trust that and His guidance is assured.

Thank you.