I'm thinking this morning about an interrupted friendship. My self-determined objective is to concede to my friend...but my motive is just to get it over with, a self-determined objective that never works to anybody's advantage. On the other hand, since there is some garbage on the field between us, to try to talk that through is just playing in the mess, making more of a mess. To just ignore it and call it "agreeing with your adversary quickly" or "turning the other cheek" is lying to myself and to God.
I know that I am open to a healing of our relationship, open to God's perfect healing, but I also know I need to sit and wait on the Lord. Being willing is not being ready. Being willing is to be open to NOT explaining me to Gertrude or Gertrude to me, open to understanding the UN-necessity of any oral explanation.
I am reminded, and gratefully, of my own experience that I can rely on here. Back in 1987 being willing for a healed working relationship and being quiet about it resulted in both of us, my co-worker and me, experiencing the removal of our resentments...voila, a healed relationship.
God nudged, I acted, my co-worker responded in kind...we became friends with none of our mutually unkind words and acts explained out loud between us. One of God's many miracles in my life.
Thank you.
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