Things are not always what they seem. Sometimes the bad is
not, and the good is less than wonderful.
I was talking with a long-time friend yesterday, and she was
relating her experience with her sister who, briefly, is dumping on my friend
for all her woes of yesteryear when they were growing up. My friend was a tish
proud of herself because she realized that all that dumping represented how
much her sister had loved her and needed her back then, and how my friend had
failed her sister.
As a sidebar, here comes one of the benefits of long-time
friendships: I remembered some 25 years ago when this exact same thing was
happening, and how my friend had worked her way through it then, admitted her
wrongs, made her amends and became a better person for it.
On hearing this same story again, it seemed to me that
Sister had apparently not become a better person for it, she'd just saved it
for use another day. And Friend was seeing again "all that dumping
represented how much her sister had loved her and needed her back then, and how
my friend had failed her sister" and probably considering making amends.
I reminded my friend of that, and she was, "Oh yeah!
That's right, and that's not all...she, etc., etc., etc." Resentment
aborning. We chatted, and it occurred to us that this is my friend's golden
opportunity to begin learning how to not fight...anything, anybody...but also
not be a dumping ground for anything, anybody.
Ding-dong...God calling!
This is God's proving ground...we get to prove God does have
our back, not by begging her to show herself by doing for us, but by going into
the silence. By turning within and letting God flow forth.
We are told that all God's promises will come true if we
work for them...our mistake is believing that our work is in doing, doing,
doing to get them to come true. No. It is going into the silence and realizing
God there.
We don't take our problem into the silence, we take nothing
but our belief that God is there for us and his perfection can and will flow
out from within for the benefit of all...not for me, not for you, but for us,
for all. Friend, known and unknown; enemy, known and unknown...all.
We finally realize our true job in life is simply coming to
believe that God's invisible work is already done...in us, for us.
Thank you.
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