Saturday, January 25, 2014

FORE-GIVING INTO FORGIVING

I had the thought sometime back that people who rub us the wrong way are our emery boards. It is our reaction to them, and then remembering "it's not them," that helps to smooth our resistance into acceptance. I try to remember today to think of the emery-board people in my life as my angels. 

Just this morning, I am thinking of a friend who seems to be more than a little critical of me of late...but saying nothing.  Instead of chewing her a new one in my mind (exactly the road I was heading for), it occurred to me that I may be her emery-board angel right now.

What if she's perceiving one of my defects of character as a personal insult/attack? By reacting in kind, i.e., taking it personally, I set up the chain of payback which never ends with a spiritual thought...g.d. blank is not a spiritual thought. 

Again, here's comes the Word to the rescue...as in, I get to ask myself "what is wrong with me that I cannot accept this?" Which is really just a quick reminder that this is a good thing...if done right, I'll learn a tish more about giving over, or fore-giving. Of which I can never know enough.

Thank you.

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