The reasoning mind resists moving closer to those who differ from us and aren't shy about saying so because they make it so clear they don't want us closer. To which self-centered fear says, "They're going to tell everybody I'm a nut," or "They must think..." whatever negative fear our ego chooses to use.
It is not the actual moving closer that is our goal...it is taming our own thoughts about those ones, about their differing with us and saying so.
Trying to be friends to a verbally expressive non-friend is just another self-determined objective. It is healing within ourselves that we must realize...it is in our thoughts that all resistance is born, that all violence, all negativity is born. So it is in our minds that all healing must begin and flow forth.
We cannot heal our minds by thinking about it, analyzing it, or even knowing better. We wind up trying new and different ways to do the same thing all over again.
We must go to God, we must realize and then practice spiritual principles, the solver of all problems, the healer of all wrongs.
We must let the unfriend be an unfriend without our being an unfriend in our own thoughts.
Sidebar: I made this truth my own by allowing an acquaintance to think, say and be less than wonderful to me and about me...because I was too gutless to speak up. Then, I beat me up for not being able to respond instantly and uglier than the incoming ugly. My ego-victory mind began building a world-class resentment.
However, I had been told, and did believe, that all my problems could be solved by spiritual principles so I asked God for direction. I was led to the above realization and knew that if I had responded in kind immediately, I would have returned nasty for nasty and missed the gift of gutless as my learning tool. Gutless was my gift to God to use for my benefit.
The pearl, of course, is I hold no ill-will toward the unfriendly one, plus (best part) no harm was done by me to that one.
Thank You.
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