GET HAPPY ABOUT IT

There are so many levels to life itself...that's what keeps us from ever getting bored. If we're bored, we're not doing it right.

There seems ever to be someone else in our lives who is not doing it right. And we need to talk to them..."to vent," "to clear the air," "to get it out in the open." It is a rude awakening when we realize all that is true only if we are prepared to let the other person off our hook, as in, be right, or, worse [gulp], win.

And not by just saying the correct (but pretty) words, such as, "You were right and I was wrong," with the implied, "Now you say it." No, we must do an about face mentally by coming to believe that he has a valid point. Not negating our own but not defending it, either. We are where we are because we believed we were right. Now our job has become to expand ourselves, our own attitude, to allow that her point has validity, too. In other words, our job now is, quite simply, to change our own mind.

That part is done within us before we ever ask for a sit down to talk.

We cannot begin as long as we hold to a single thought of "yes, but...." Not in just not saying it, but, most important, in not thinking it, not feeling it. And that cannot be done by our unaided will alone. Only by relying on a power higher than ourselves can we be lifted out of ourselves...to where we need to be.

If we hold to one smidgen of our own over hers, it will fester, going deeper, spreading further, doing harm to us and to other relationships here and now and way down the pike. All because we have not been willing to get over our own selves with our current ego problem.

None of this means that we are always wrong. No, no, no. We are right but so is she, so is he...God is in the solution when we both, when we all, come out the winner.

Life is never boring when we give up the win/lose mentality...when we sincerely want God's will done in our lives more than we want our own will done in our lives.

Thank You.