Wednesday, February 13, 2013

ANGELS OF THE EMERY BOARD

[The following is a reprint of a blog of mine from January 27, 2012.]

A new way of looking at/feeling toward a friend came to me this morning. On the one hand, she is a lovely gracious and giving person with a great sense of humor; on the other, she has a too-often-present competitive attack mode.

My BFO: When in that mode, she is my angel of the emery board. (I have come to believe that people who rub us the wrong way are our emery boards, helping to smooth our resistance into acceptance.)

Her too-often-present competitive attack mode is exactly what I resist. It intimidates me, so when she is in that mode, my attitude judges, with my mouth pursed, which triggers more attack.

I know “that which we resist, persists” so I need to start to walk this through (find my acceptance) with gratitude in grace…I have started just through my BFO of recognizing this.

Actually I haven’t started…”It is finished.” My reasoning mind is all set to ponder this forever and do nothing. In fact, the problem is solved through the recognition. The rest is all in the discipline of training my mind to focus on the fact of my own freedom. All that is required is a “Thank You” when this angel of the emery board rises up and my judgmental mind starts to answer.

It will be interesting to me to see how long I choose to take in living this new freedom…for it is entirely up to me.

Thank You.

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