It is a tish humbling to realize that the hardest thing we will ever do in life is simply change our own mind.
In my continuing efforts to keep my mind open, I was gifted with the perfect reminder to self: "He may be right." Sometimes I say that to myself when one of my angels just walks into the room...saves me time and effort later.
We get daily opportunities to practice this...which is not to say we will practice it daily, we just get the opportunity. How often we choose to remember it depends on how comfortable in our own skin we choose to be.
It is surprisingly most difficult to practice this on those we love. Apparently, our ego wants the best (our way) for them...or wants them out of our life. Because, for sure, if we don't learn to give over to those we love, they will be out of our life. Which is just exactly as it is if they don't learn to give over to us...we skate.
The lesson we want to learn is when someone we love presents an idea that we disagree with, immediately and silently say, "He may be right." Then in our quiet time, we get to ponder how she was right, how he came to his conclusion, how it agrees with my point of view, no matter how minuscule the point of agreement. It is a given, if we don't ponder how she's right, we will obsessively worry, fret and stew about getting him to see his error and to agree with us.
Paradoxically, the process is simpler when we practice on someone toward whom we have no good or bad feelings. Apparently not having a history with the person, we're not invested in swaying, or impressing?, her.
It's a starting point, and that's the goal...decide to give it an honest effort, and God can and will walk us through it.
We may never come to agreement which is actually the least important part of our lesson. The most important part is we are learning (1) how to give up fighting and (2) how to rein in our ego's need to be right. There...the pearl beyond price.
Thank You.
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