Making amends to those we have hurt in our life is essential to our living a spiritually peaced life. The hard lesson to learn is the difference between an apology and an amend.
I am sorry is an apology with as many added frills and phrases as we feel necessary...I didn't mean to or I wasn't thinking, etc. An apology is nice and no doubt necessary, but it is not an amend.
An amend requires that we dig deep within our self to find our justification for causing pain to another. (Pain inflicted on our self is dealt with by taking our own inventory daily, then realizing unto trusting that God's will, God's way is on it.)
It is the wound we inflict on others that requires our humble acknowledgment. That is the ego buster...humility.
We can never be free of the source of our wounding until we recognize and accept that source as our own selfish desire for egoic betterment plain and simple.
We are aware...or soon learn...that which caused the wound to one has previously or soon will cause pain to others. Pain exacted by our self-centered fear...which we identify as justifiable anger and/or hurt.
Justifiable is rarely justifiable...it is a cover for doing to another what we feel (fear) they have done to us.
Here lies the nut of paradox, one of God's hidey holes. Fighting the source of our pain brings pain; welcoming the source of our pain heals the pain. Resistance is painful; nonresistance is healing.
Short form: Resist not evil.
Thank you.
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