THERE IS NO GOD IN VICTIM THINKING

Don't get mad, get even. It's better to ask forgiveness than permission.

It seems to me that those two thoughts have become dogma in today's world. To me, however, they are simply the rocky road toward victimhood.  

Take, for instance, don't get mad, get even. There it is...resentment on the hoof. How long do you get to carry around your resentment before you get sufficiently even? My resentment would have resentments by the time I believed I'd gotten sufficiently even.

And, it's better to ask forgiveness than permission? Talk about living in a self-centered-fear world. Fear...fear that we won't get something we want or we'll lose something we have...dictates our actions. We barge right on, doing whatever we want and grabbing whatever we believe we need, then being shocked, shocked!, when we're not only not forgiven, but seriously disliked into the bargain.

Victim thinking takes one of two paths...anger or hurt. Anger: "I'll pay you back and suffer the constant pain of my own resentment." Or, hurt: "I'll pick up mud and sling it in my own face. Then you'll be sorry for me."

The bottom line...there is no God in either of those thoughts, there is only me, my, mine. It is only when we turn our thoughts to others, to being of some help somehow to others, that we can realize that God has our back...me, my, mine is no longer a concern.

Thank You.