[The following is a reprint of my blog, slightly reworked, of March 28, 2012.]
I can tell my mentor anything...ugly gossip, shameful acts, petty peeves...and feel free doing it. I know I am not and will not be judged.
BUT...the reason I have a mentor is not just to have someone to whom I can speak freely, but to have someone to whom I can listen for his feedback. Some of which I do not want to hear. I am grateful today that when I feel myself resisting what I'm hearing from him, I know this is exactly why I shared what I shared...this is what I need to hear. Especially when I feel chastised.
It is neither healthy nor productive to run my uglies without rein and want only a "there, there" in response...that's just spoiling the brat within. The rest of the story... getting to the real growth. Real growth comes from not dressing up my uglies so that I won't get a response I don't want to hear. I can talk to my bathroom mirror and get as much help.
Spit it out and hear...listen for...the feedback. Listen especially for the unspoken feedback. Welcome all of it...for that is the road to freedom from self.
It's not all that difficult to learn the "right" answers...it's a lifetime learning to live those right answers.
Thank you.
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