Fr Richard Rohr has written many times that until we find a way to be a transformer, we will pass our pain on to others. That rang true to me the first time I read it, and it continues to ring true every time I reread it.
Only this morning did the idea spring forth...we don't need to ponder how to be a transformer, we have the answer: Love and laugh. When we're feeling the pain of day-to-day living (as in, when I'm dealing with others who are doing it wrong and it is adversely impacting Me), love and laugh. Which is code for don't be as nasty as you want to be.
So, the problem is not in finding a way, it's finding the want to within our own self. Our need is to become willing to tangle with our ego...with love. And laughter.
Here's my good news: We can take some comfort in the fact that by our very desire for still more spiritual growth, we are in the process of developing the necessary willingness to say no to ego.
I figure I'm learning how to refuse Lucy a place at the table. In looking back, I can say, without lying even, my learning started in earnest when I was gifted with my ego's name, Lucy. For whatever reason, that lessens the load. The load being me.
Most times now when I realize Lucy is doing my thinking for me, I feel lighter. I can grin and consider options for getting over myself. Before, when I'd suspect that my ego was in control, I'd mentally see this long, dark and dreary road, uphill, before me...and usually find a trashy romance to read.
Just had a BFO: The Bible, if read right, can qualify as trashy romance. God does not care how we come to him...just come.
Thank you.
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