The overly guarded and self-protected person is scratched and dented by all 'the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,' whereas the malleable, bendable, flexible, woundable person is almost indestructible. Their wounds are always allowed to be their teachers instead of their defeat. - Fr. Richard Rohr's "Daily Meditation," February 15, 2016.
There it is..."the malleable, bendable, flexible, woundable person is almost indestructible." That is the promise of nonresistance and the perfect definition of the nonresistant person, according to me.
Just yesterday I was talking on the phone with my best bud from high school. She was remembering something I had done that had peeved her back then, and she was working up to a real "How could you have?" attitude.
As she talked, I remembered the situation...and my memory was very close to hers. Meaning, I had no excuses. So I said to her, "Shame on me. I really regret I put you through that."
With which, she laughed and said that actually it's pretty funny, looking back at it, and how she coulda, shoulda, woulda. We did a little dance on the head of a pin, each letting the other off the hook.
I thought as I went to bed last night how grateful I am that I've learned the beauty of nonresistance...both how to be and why. Without that as a spiritual tool, and just a tish of wiggle room, I would have justified or magnified my thoughtless behavior and made her less-than-wonderful memory a present regret for both of us.
Maybe nonresistance is forgiveness on the wing.
Thank you.
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