Being a mule for other people's anger is a hidey hole for our ego. We assume (a red flag always) that we're being supportive when, in fact, we're on an ego trip.
For instance, someone close to us is dealt dirt and we feel for them. Being supportive is asking what can we do to help...with the unspoken but always underlying question being, "What can I do to help you get over your mad (i.e., yourself) ?"
Being a mule for the other's anger is our ego taking on the dirty deal as our own...feeling the other's "justified" anger and inserting our self into the problem with snarks and snubs. Usually making a new enemy and not helping our friend.
For instance, someone close to us is dealt dirt and we feel for them. Being supportive is asking what can we do to help...with the unspoken but always underlying question being, "What can I do to help you get over your mad (i.e., yourself) ?"
Being a mule for the other's anger is our ego taking on the dirty deal as our own...feeling the other's "justified" anger and inserting our self into the problem with snarks and snubs. Usually making a new enemy and not helping our friend.
Our ego is doing our thinking for us when we allow ourselves to believe any unkind behavior is acceptable to God...love your enemy as yourself precludes unkind behavior, end of discussion.
Those who rely on the letter of the law over grace, the "overly scrupulous" that The Cloud of Unknowing warns about, seem to struggle with this. They tend to live with an eye toward finding an offender to correct rather than a person to love. Too often they become rigid, righteous and right...and avoided.
This is scrupulosity, and there is no God there, for that which we are holding so dear, so rigidly, becomes our God.
Loose it and let it go.
Thank you.
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