There. That is exactly why we cannot afford resentments. Resentments are hate in three syllables, and most of us have learned that hate eats us up from the inside out. So we don't hate...we resent, justifiably, of course. For who ever had a resentment that wasn't fully (personally) justified? And yet that very justified resentment, nurtured and held close, is what becomes the very definition of us.
We resent someone who "to our way of thinking" disrespected us in some manner...family member, friend, employer, total stranger, makes no never mind. It is near impossible for the reasoning mind to grasp that it is "our way of thinking" that is the source of our pain.
Those of us seeking spiritual growth, though, soon realize the resentment has moved into self-hate. By our refusal to let go of our ego-victory way of thinking about the incident (our refusal to seek help in changing our mind, in fact), we keep stabbing ourselves with our memory of the incident. We even know better but do it anyway, and there is the source of our self-hate.
Because, even if we are as right as we think we are and s/he is equally wrong, it is our incessant reliving it that keeps us tied to ego, to self. There is no spiritual growth there, no God there. There is only self there, and it is filled with hate.
And to think, if we want to be free, all we need do is change our mind.
Thank you.
We resent someone who "to our way of thinking" disrespected us in some manner...family member, friend, employer, total stranger, makes no never mind. It is near impossible for the reasoning mind to grasp that it is "our way of thinking" that is the source of our pain.
Those of us seeking spiritual growth, though, soon realize the resentment has moved into self-hate. By our refusal to let go of our ego-victory way of thinking about the incident (our refusal to seek help in changing our mind, in fact), we keep stabbing ourselves with our memory of the incident. We even know better but do it anyway, and there is the source of our self-hate.
Because, even if we are as right as we think we are and s/he is equally wrong, it is our incessant reliving it that keeps us tied to ego, to self. There is no spiritual growth there, no God there. There is only self there, and it is filled with hate.
And to think, if we want to be free, all we need do is change our mind.
Thank you.
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