IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME

"It's not you, it's me" has been the by-word for breakups for a long time now...breakup with a love, a friend, a parent, a sibling...doesn't matter. It's the perfect out. How does the other one argue with that? Or how does the other one win against that!

The only problem with it, of course, is that the one saying it does not for a minute believe it. There's the core of the problem of life itself (not to be too dramatic about it).

We have learned to speak Truth while not believing Truth. We continue to believe, to bank on, our reasoning (ego-victory) mind...which is never wrong, always legislating for itself, and lives to get-back-at because it's not me, it's you to our ego-victory mind.

Our reasoning mind is at its most powerful (and destructive) when it is convinced that it is putting another's needs first...a sick child, a disabled parent, a misguided sibling/friend/love.

It is only by going to God when we have a sick child, a disabled parent, a misguided sibling/friend/love and sincerely seeking to know and to do Its will, without pre-set personal conditions, that our ego-victory mind is deflated.

Our lesson to learn is that God's will might be exactly the opposite of what we are seeing needs be done...or, harder to accept, it might be exactly the same as what we are seeing...but in an exactly opposite direction of the way we want to help.

In fact, our ego-victory mind wants only for the one in need to be like us...and we are the only ones who are unaware that that is our goal. The one in need is resisting mightily and probably doesn't even know why...our solution just does not fit is all s/he may well be feeling.

God's will is the original one-size-fits-all...our will is one-size-fits-none, not even ourselves. It is not you, it is me.

Thank You.