According to Buddhist psychologist John Welwood, We are learning to use each difficulty along the way as an opportunity to go further, to connect more deeply, not just with our partner, but with our own aliveness as well. [From Fr Richard Rohr's "Daily Meditation," June 17, 2019.]
We are learning to use each difficulty as an opportunity to go further. There it is...the nugget of gold we seek. Unconsciously at first...thus we resist every difficulty and believe it God's will when we conquer one. In fact that is our rigid self-will using one, many or all of its tools...victim, avenger, fear, et al., to "win."
Word of warning, we will stay stuck in self until we loose it and let it go."It" being whatever we are resisting.
To paraphrase Eknath Easwaran, when someone upsets us, hurts us, maligns us, we must not draw back but go closer to that one for our spiritual goal is to overcome our own self. The hurtful one is but our chosen taxi to ride, or angel, to get ourself clear.
Welwood further wrote: A conscious relationship is one that calls forth who you really are. . . .
Building a conscious relationship may feel hurtful, ugly, sharp, stinging...wrong, in a word. But if it only gives us the equivalent feeling of puppy love it is the equivalent of puppy love...fleeting, egoic, fun for the moment but utterly self involved.
To find and to live out who we really are can be...at times must be...painful to our ego-self, to our surface-self, else we stay on the surface of our own life...involved with self alone. There is no God in that.
We must go beyond reason to love.
Thank you.
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