"Judgment isn’t the problem – it’s condemnation that’s the problem." I wish I could remember where I read that so I could give credit, but there it is, unattributed, but truth to me.
A mistake we so often make is believing that we must show our individualism...maybe just to prove we can stand alone. All we prove is that we are against you, your good idea, your way...as in I-me-mine is better. That is the way of separation...from God and others.
I'm always disappointed when someone I like a lot is disrespected to me by another. (I wish I would think to be as disappointed in me when I do it.) But it brings cause to wonder...what's in it for him, for her, for me, that disrespect? What is it covering that the disrespecter isn't even aware of in himself? Why doesn't she look there, inside her own self, instead of trying to turn someone else's good opinion to bad?
Which takes me to the quote that judgment isn't the problem...it is necessary to make judgments daily, hourly, it seems. But condemnation? Condemnation is the problem because in the every day course of life, condemnation is rarely if ever called for...never the right answer.
Condemnation is practically a certain-sure way to receive condemnation from others...remember that individualism? Others do it, too. It comes back at us almost before our lips stop moving...whereupon we feel hurt, get angry, lash out at a safe bystander, and birth a resentment. There ain't no God there...plus, now we've got an unsafe bystander.
I suspect we feel if we don't condemn another's bad behavior (which really is our own perception, our own interpretation of our perception), it'll mean we approve...when another's behavior is not ours to approve of or disapprove of.
We each have to do what we each have to do...God knows it, and karma sweeps it clean. Our job is to not get in the way...of God or karma.
Thank you.
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