A friend once asked me what we would do when/if we ever had a serious disagreement. The answer, of course, is we each agree that the other is right...then use all our efforts in understanding why the other is right. Otherwise, we're just going to use all our efforts obsessing about why and how the other is wrong.
We already agree with ourselves that we are right. Now, we start learning the art of divorcing ourselves from our own opinion; i.e., we bring God in.
I must bring God into it, because it is my impossibility to sincerely declare myself wrong and believe it. My lips can say wondrous things, but my ego will just puff with pride at how great I art to be giving over so magnanimously. And there I go down that wrong road again...breeding a resentment.
God is the necessary ingredient to get to the understanding that we are both right...that neither is wrong...that we both can walk away winners. The ego is incapable of allowing that.
The rest of the story is we get to do this many, many times...70 times 7 and then some. The ego never dies, nor does it fade away...it just hides in the open and takes over at will. But then so does God hide in the open...and takes over whenever we get out of the way.
Choose you this day whom you shall serve.
Thank You.
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