LEARNING TO LISTEN

I can tell my mentor anything...ugly gossip, shameful acts, petty peeves...and feel free doing it. I know I am not and will not be judged.

BUT

The reason I have a mentor is not just to have someone to whom I can speak freely, but to have someone to listen to for his feedback. Some of which I do not want to hear. I am grateful today that when I feel myself resisting what I'm hearing from him, I know this is exactly why I shared what I shared...this is what I need to hear.

It is neither healthy nor productive to run my uglies without rein and want only a "there, there" in response...that's enabling...spoiling the brat within. The rest of the story is getting to the real growth which comes in my not dressing up my uglies so I won't get a response I don't want to hear.  I can talk to my bathroom mirror and get as much help.

Spit it out and hear the feedback...listen especially for the unspoken feedback. Welcome all of it...for that is the road to freedom from self.

It's not all that difficult to learn the "right" answers...it's a lifetime learning to live those right answers. 

Thank You.