When we feel hurt by another's snide or snarky or even untrue remark, that wound is on them...theirs to atone for. In that instant of hurt or anger...which is hurt in disguise...it is ours to forgive.
What we all but refuse to learn is the minute we respond in kind or natter at will to others about the hurt....we have us a self-inflicted wound.
A self-inflicted wound makes a mockery of forgiveness in the wash of ego's "poor, pitiful, put-upon me." With ego riding herd, the hurt is justified and hardened by our rigid resistance...going for the victim's balm of pity, and, ahem, to pay back the originator.
The hurt grows by the continuing self-infliction of the wound. Rethinking..."venting" which is a fancy word for blaming...is to nurture it. We are healed by accepting that we made a decision based on self that has placed us in this position of hurt. This is infallible.
We must accept ownership...kiss it on the lips...before we can know freedom from this pain.
That freedom is forgiveness; i.e., we must see God in the other; we must access God in our self; and we must experience God in a new way that is larger than an 'Enforcer.'
Thank you.
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